Hi All,
I wanted to personally thank all of you for your wonderful posts and stories during this 8 week class. I realize that by reading about your experiences, I learn more and more everyday through each one of you. Our class on communication has also reminded me that collaboration with each other is a very important task in our professional field. We have to remember to stay open-minded in regards to different approaches on curriculum, classroom environment and children's behavior. I appreciate the depth of your sharing during this class, especially those who relay classroom experiences. It makes those of us who are not in the classroom feel like we are there with you!
Saturday, October 26, 2013
Sunday, October 13, 2013
Adjouring
Adjouring
Usually, when I think about how a group project or paper came to an end, they last thing I think of is a "sad time." I am so relieved and excited to be done that I don't think of missing my group members. Most of my group projects have awarded me with friends that would move on with me into other classes or at the very least a learning experience or two.
I remember that for some projects the instructor would ask for our feedback about how our group members did during the process. Sometimes we would even get the evaluations back from the other group members and be able to see our strengths and weaknesses. Again, it was all about learning from each other. Therefore, I would have to agree that in this case, adjourning in this fashion was an essential stage of the teamwork.
Honestly, I'm not sure what it will be like to finish up here at Walden. I wish that I could say that I have gotten close to all my colleagues, but the truth is that with online classes, it is harder to have that classroom environment that fosters camaraderie. Although, I will miss the stories and great personal experiences that others share in their postings and blogs. I know that I have already learned a lot from each of you and I appreciate your honesty in sharing.
Usually, when I think about how a group project or paper came to an end, they last thing I think of is a "sad time." I am so relieved and excited to be done that I don't think of missing my group members. Most of my group projects have awarded me with friends that would move on with me into other classes or at the very least a learning experience or two.
I remember that for some projects the instructor would ask for our feedback about how our group members did during the process. Sometimes we would even get the evaluations back from the other group members and be able to see our strengths and weaknesses. Again, it was all about learning from each other. Therefore, I would have to agree that in this case, adjourning in this fashion was an essential stage of the teamwork.
Honestly, I'm not sure what it will be like to finish up here at Walden. I wish that I could say that I have gotten close to all my colleagues, but the truth is that with online classes, it is harder to have that classroom environment that fosters camaraderie. Although, I will miss the stories and great personal experiences that others share in their postings and blogs. I know that I have already learned a lot from each of you and I appreciate your honesty in sharing.
Monday, October 7, 2013
Conflict Resolution
Conflict Resolution
Currently, I am a stay at home mom. So my conflicts are mostly between my twin boys and I or between David and Andrew themselves.
I have to admit that sometimes when it is a conflict between me and one of the boys, I tend to use challenging strategies. I fully know that this type of strategy is used to benefit my needs, but sometimes as a parent that is my only option. For example, if I am in the grocery store and one of them is having a melt down because they have sat in the cart, strapped in, for too long, I have to diffuse the situation so that I can finish my shopping. Some people might say that I should just up and leave the basket and exit the store! However, I look at it from the direction of....it was a challenge to get here in the first place and I am not giving up until I am done!! Therefore, I usually talk to them or reprimand their behavior if it needs it, but I always finish my shopping!
Most of the time, when it comes to conflict between the boys, I try to take a cooperative strategy approach. If I am aware of who took who's car and who was playing with said care first, I usually try to diffuse the situation by giving back the car to its' rightful owner and then discuss with the "stealer" how it is not okay to take other people's things. But I do try to make it a win-win outcome by giving the "stealer" a different car that is not being used by anyone. Compromise is tough but I do use it as an outcome when I do not know exactly what they are having the conflict over. Sometimes I come into the room too late and just see them tussling on the floor! I guess this is what boys do! However, I want them to understand that putting your hands on someone else does not solve the problem and that it is better to use your words. Again, tough for a 2 year old because they are just getting to the talking stage. Yet, I want them to learn that physical force is never the answer to a problem. In this situation, the nonviolent communication is the best tool because it promotes discussion of feelings in regards to the situation and then allows not only compromise but compassion for how the other person feels.
Currently, I am a stay at home mom. So my conflicts are mostly between my twin boys and I or between David and Andrew themselves.
I have to admit that sometimes when it is a conflict between me and one of the boys, I tend to use challenging strategies. I fully know that this type of strategy is used to benefit my needs, but sometimes as a parent that is my only option. For example, if I am in the grocery store and one of them is having a melt down because they have sat in the cart, strapped in, for too long, I have to diffuse the situation so that I can finish my shopping. Some people might say that I should just up and leave the basket and exit the store! However, I look at it from the direction of....it was a challenge to get here in the first place and I am not giving up until I am done!! Therefore, I usually talk to them or reprimand their behavior if it needs it, but I always finish my shopping!
Most of the time, when it comes to conflict between the boys, I try to take a cooperative strategy approach. If I am aware of who took who's car and who was playing with said care first, I usually try to diffuse the situation by giving back the car to its' rightful owner and then discuss with the "stealer" how it is not okay to take other people's things. But I do try to make it a win-win outcome by giving the "stealer" a different car that is not being used by anyone. Compromise is tough but I do use it as an outcome when I do not know exactly what they are having the conflict over. Sometimes I come into the room too late and just see them tussling on the floor! I guess this is what boys do! However, I want them to understand that putting your hands on someone else does not solve the problem and that it is better to use your words. Again, tough for a 2 year old because they are just getting to the talking stage. Yet, I want them to learn that physical force is never the answer to a problem. In this situation, the nonviolent communication is the best tool because it promotes discussion of feelings in regards to the situation and then allows not only compromise but compassion for how the other person feels.
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Who Am I as a Communicator?
Who Am I as a Communicator?
I think the one thing that surprised me the most about the evaluations this week is that I see myself "elevate" communication anxiety and my other evaluators do not. Throughout my life, when I describe myself as "shy" most people tell me that they do not see me this way. However, deep down I know that I deplore public speaking, meeting and talking to new people, and eye contact when talking to someone. I am fully aware that all of these difficulties derive from a lack of social skills, in a certain sense, that are a direct result of my childhood.
Furthermore, another aspect that I learned this week about communication is that although I am a people-oriented listener, my evaluator also gathered a score that put me in the verbally aggressive section as well. Although I scored on a moderate level, my evaluator scored me in the significant level. In all honesty, I can concur with this finding in regards to my relationship with the evaluator. Which then led me to understand that I communicate differently with different people in my life.
So, I pose the questions: Does anyone else find this to be true? Do you communicate the same with every person in your life?
I think the one thing that surprised me the most about the evaluations this week is that I see myself "elevate" communication anxiety and my other evaluators do not. Throughout my life, when I describe myself as "shy" most people tell me that they do not see me this way. However, deep down I know that I deplore public speaking, meeting and talking to new people, and eye contact when talking to someone. I am fully aware that all of these difficulties derive from a lack of social skills, in a certain sense, that are a direct result of my childhood.
Furthermore, another aspect that I learned this week about communication is that although I am a people-oriented listener, my evaluator also gathered a score that put me in the verbally aggressive section as well. Although I scored on a moderate level, my evaluator scored me in the significant level. In all honesty, I can concur with this finding in regards to my relationship with the evaluator. Which then led me to understand that I communicate differently with different people in my life.
So, I pose the questions: Does anyone else find this to be true? Do you communicate the same with every person in your life?
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Cultural Communication - Week 3
Cultural Communication
Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?
If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently?
After much thought, I have come to the conclusion that I communicate with everyone, all groups and cultures, that same at first. Oddly enough, I realized that when I speak to someone of a different culture, that is not the first thing that comes to mind. Good or bad? I don't know. However, I think as I linger in the conversation with the person or a group of people, I then start to realize that there are cultural differences between us and I try to be respectful of those differences.
Based on what you have learned this week, share at least three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively with the people or groups you have identified.
1. The concept of cultural myopia, or a form of nearsightedness grounded in the belief that one's own culture is appropriate and relevant in all situations and to all people (O'Hair & Weimann, 2012) was a very large barrier in my life at one time. However, now that I have had experience with other cultures and have learned to be open to the differences that we may share, I can say that I no longer have trouble with cultural myopia. Therefore, my first strategy is to always remember to be open to other cultures and to practice active listening when participating in a conversation with someone from another culture.
2. Another strategy is to withhold judgement long enough to gain a deeper understanding than first impressions allow (Gonzalez-Mena, 2010). In other words, it is better to practice informational listening and empathic listening when talking with someone from another culture because it will allow you a better understanding of the person's intent and feelings. If a person is quick to judge someone from another culture, it can lead to generalizations and stereotypes.
3. Another strategy comes in the form of understanding that just because you do know about a person's culture, that does not mean that you can predict their behavior (Gonzalez-Mena, 2010). Again, generalizing other can lead to stereotypes that can then be based on to students and other parents or colleagues that we come in contact with each day.
References
Gonzalez-Mena, J. (2010). 50 strategies for communicating and working with diverse families. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from different groups and cultures?
If yes, in what ways do you communicate differently?
After much thought, I have come to the conclusion that I communicate with everyone, all groups and cultures, that same at first. Oddly enough, I realized that when I speak to someone of a different culture, that is not the first thing that comes to mind. Good or bad? I don't know. However, I think as I linger in the conversation with the person or a group of people, I then start to realize that there are cultural differences between us and I try to be respectful of those differences.
Based on what you have learned this week, share at least three strategies you could use to help you communicate more effectively with the people or groups you have identified.
1. The concept of cultural myopia, or a form of nearsightedness grounded in the belief that one's own culture is appropriate and relevant in all situations and to all people (O'Hair & Weimann, 2012) was a very large barrier in my life at one time. However, now that I have had experience with other cultures and have learned to be open to the differences that we may share, I can say that I no longer have trouble with cultural myopia. Therefore, my first strategy is to always remember to be open to other cultures and to practice active listening when participating in a conversation with someone from another culture.
2. Another strategy is to withhold judgement long enough to gain a deeper understanding than first impressions allow (Gonzalez-Mena, 2010). In other words, it is better to practice informational listening and empathic listening when talking with someone from another culture because it will allow you a better understanding of the person's intent and feelings. If a person is quick to judge someone from another culture, it can lead to generalizations and stereotypes.
3. Another strategy comes in the form of understanding that just because you do know about a person's culture, that does not mean that you can predict their behavior (Gonzalez-Mena, 2010). Again, generalizing other can lead to stereotypes that can then be based on to students and other parents or colleagues that we come in contact with each day.
References
Gonzalez-Mena, J. (2010). 50 strategies for communicating and working with diverse families. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson Education, Inc.
O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.
Communication and TV- Week 2
Communication and TV
I used an TV show that is controversial for the assignment, on purpose. "Real Time" with Bill Maher is a great example of communication.
With the sound off, I see facial expressions and hand gestures that all seem exaggerated. However, when I turn the sound on, I can see just by the nature of the issues that are being discussed that these types of communication are warranted.
When Bill Maher does his show on HBO, of course he can swear and say things that could not be said on regular TV. Yet, when you take a Democrat like Bill Maher and put him with a GOP or Republican, it seems that only certain types of communication is inherent. Obviously, more times than not there is arguing going on and interruptions by both parties during the conversation. The topic or issue is usually one that sets both sides up against each other. Therefore, conflict is inevitable.
Slang is used, as well as many euphemisms. But more importantly, even when the sound is off, there is a tension that you can see on both sides of the issue. The proximity of the guests on show is quite interesting as well. Usually, Bill Maher sits on one end of the table and the guests sit next to him in the order of political views, with the most clearly different point of view as far a way from him as possible. Furthermore, I think that Bill Maher's listening skills are tainted by his political agenda. He is clearly a passive listener and does not practice active listening at all during his conversations. I think he displays overconfidence is when what he knows when it comes to the issue at hand, which then does not allow him to openly listen to the speaker. He has selective listening and displays defensive listening when he responds with aggression and beings by arguing with the speaker.
My "aha" moment came when I realized that when discussing difficult topics, such as politics, you need to have an open mind. It is important to stay focused and listen fully to the speaker, whether you agree with their statements or not. It can be hard to put aside your view points on certain issues, but it is important when trying to collaborate with colleagues.
I used an TV show that is controversial for the assignment, on purpose. "Real Time" with Bill Maher is a great example of communication.
With the sound off, I see facial expressions and hand gestures that all seem exaggerated. However, when I turn the sound on, I can see just by the nature of the issues that are being discussed that these types of communication are warranted.
When Bill Maher does his show on HBO, of course he can swear and say things that could not be said on regular TV. Yet, when you take a Democrat like Bill Maher and put him with a GOP or Republican, it seems that only certain types of communication is inherent. Obviously, more times than not there is arguing going on and interruptions by both parties during the conversation. The topic or issue is usually one that sets both sides up against each other. Therefore, conflict is inevitable.
Slang is used, as well as many euphemisms. But more importantly, even when the sound is off, there is a tension that you can see on both sides of the issue. The proximity of the guests on show is quite interesting as well. Usually, Bill Maher sits on one end of the table and the guests sit next to him in the order of political views, with the most clearly different point of view as far a way from him as possible. Furthermore, I think that Bill Maher's listening skills are tainted by his political agenda. He is clearly a passive listener and does not practice active listening at all during his conversations. I think he displays overconfidence is when what he knows when it comes to the issue at hand, which then does not allow him to openly listen to the speaker. He has selective listening and displays defensive listening when he responds with aggression and beings by arguing with the speaker.
My "aha" moment came when I realized that when discussing difficult topics, such as politics, you need to have an open mind. It is important to stay focused and listen fully to the speaker, whether you agree with their statements or not. It can be hard to put aside your view points on certain issues, but it is important when trying to collaborate with colleagues.
Sunday, September 8, 2013
Competent Communicator
Competent Communicator
After some thinking, I realized that one of my professors at Fresno State is the perfect example of a competent communicator. She was awesome communicator in all situations, but excelled in one on one conversations. She maintains eye contact, nods her head when she understands a point that you are trying to make, and only responds when she is sure you are done talking. Her feedback is usually on target with your questions and she keeps the answers focused in a positive direction. She never interrupts the speaker and never looses eye contact with the person.
This professor modeled some great communication tactics that I do in fact use when in conversation with others. I have learned to keep eye contact, wait to speak until the other person is done speaking and use good feedback when answering questions within the context of the conversation.
After some thinking, I realized that one of my professors at Fresno State is the perfect example of a competent communicator. She was awesome communicator in all situations, but excelled in one on one conversations. She maintains eye contact, nods her head when she understands a point that you are trying to make, and only responds when she is sure you are done talking. Her feedback is usually on target with your questions and she keeps the answers focused in a positive direction. She never interrupts the speaker and never looses eye contact with the person.
This professor modeled some great communication tactics that I do in fact use when in conversation with others. I have learned to keep eye contact, wait to speak until the other person is done speaking and use good feedback when answering questions within the context of the conversation.
Sunday, August 25, 2013
Professional Hopes and Goals
Professional Hopes and Goals
My most significant hope for working with families of diverse backgrounds is that I can make them feel comfortable asking questions that pertain to the well-being of their children. I want all parents to have a voice for their children and to know that they are their children's biggest advocate. I hope that all parents will know and understand that I am not here to judge them in any way.
It seems overwhelming to write that my goal for the early childhood field, in relation to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice, is to have world peace. However, I feel that if I start in my little corner of the world, then I am adding to an overall better place to live.
Thank you to my colleagues this semester for you openness and honesty in regards to the tough topic of diversity. I know that with new knowledge and the personal stories from you, I have gained a better understanding about races, ethnicities, cultures and customs that I did not know before this class.
My most significant hope for working with families of diverse backgrounds is that I can make them feel comfortable asking questions that pertain to the well-being of their children. I want all parents to have a voice for their children and to know that they are their children's biggest advocate. I hope that all parents will know and understand that I am not here to judge them in any way.
It seems overwhelming to write that my goal for the early childhood field, in relation to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice, is to have world peace. However, I feel that if I start in my little corner of the world, then I am adding to an overall better place to live.
Thank you to my colleagues this semester for you openness and honesty in regards to the tough topic of diversity. I know that with new knowledge and the personal stories from you, I have gained a better understanding about races, ethnicities, cultures and customs that I did not know before this class.
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Welcoming Families From Around the World
Welcoming Families From Around the World
Lately I have been looking into my family tree. This class on diversity has catapulted me into wanting to know all about my ancestors.
So, for this assignment, I would pick that my family would be from either Sweden or Germany.
The five ways I would prepare myself to be culturally responsive towards the family are as follows:
1. Start at the library and gather as much information on the country of Sweden and Germany.
2. Learn to read and speak in their native tongue (as much as possible, until I could become proficient)
3. Ask friends and family if they knew anyone that migrated from these countries so that I could get a first hand account of what it may have been like in their country
4. Speak with colleagues that belong to organizations that are in Sweden or Germany.
5. Attempt to gather as much information on their home land, especially in regards to the other races, ethnicities, and social classes that exist in their individual towns and cities
The most important benefit of my preparations would be that I would make the families feel welcome in our country. I would hope that my understanding of where they come from would easy the transition period and make them feel that we in the United States do in fact care about their home land. Also, communication for the families would be easier if I was able to speak and read/write in their native tongue. Furthermore, I would hope to show the families that I have an in depth understanding of their culture, customs and ethnicity. All of these aspects would greatly benefit me because I would feel that I am encouraging the families to feel comfortable and wanted here in the United States.
Lately I have been looking into my family tree. This class on diversity has catapulted me into wanting to know all about my ancestors.
So, for this assignment, I would pick that my family would be from either Sweden or Germany.
The five ways I would prepare myself to be culturally responsive towards the family are as follows:
1. Start at the library and gather as much information on the country of Sweden and Germany.
2. Learn to read and speak in their native tongue (as much as possible, until I could become proficient)
3. Ask friends and family if they knew anyone that migrated from these countries so that I could get a first hand account of what it may have been like in their country
4. Speak with colleagues that belong to organizations that are in Sweden or Germany.
5. Attempt to gather as much information on their home land, especially in regards to the other races, ethnicities, and social classes that exist in their individual towns and cities
The most important benefit of my preparations would be that I would make the families feel welcome in our country. I would hope that my understanding of where they come from would easy the transition period and make them feel that we in the United States do in fact care about their home land. Also, communication for the families would be easier if I was able to speak and read/write in their native tongue. Furthermore, I would hope to show the families that I have an in depth understanding of their culture, customs and ethnicity. All of these aspects would greatly benefit me because I would feel that I am encouraging the families to feel comfortable and wanted here in the United States.
Saturday, August 10, 2013
The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression
The Personal Side of Bias, Prejudice, and Oppression
Of late, the most influential situation regarding prejudice was in the movie, The Help. If you have seen this movie, you know what I am talking about. If you have not seen it, I encourage you to watch it with an open mind and open heart.
The movie is based on a book that was written by a white author, however, the stories in the book are all told by black "maids" from the South in a time when segregation was still abundant.
With that said, you can imagine the types of prejudice, bias and oppression that were described and acted out in this movie. From major racial slurs, to out right mean and hatred for black people is all riddled throughout this movie.
For the most part, I cried during this movie. I have never seen such a moving expression of how people can be so unloving and hurtful to another human being just because of their race. These "maids" were made to use an outhouse to relieve themselves, eat in the kitchen and never with white people, and basically take abuse and racial slurs from their bosses just to keep their jobs.
Usually when I watch this type of movie I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt and shame that my "white" ancestors would treat other human beings this way. I know it was another time; another world. However, it does still exist today in some parts of our country.
I can only hope that a movie such as this was an eye-opener for others. I can only hope that we are a country can learn to love and respect each others differences.
Of late, the most influential situation regarding prejudice was in the movie, The Help. If you have seen this movie, you know what I am talking about. If you have not seen it, I encourage you to watch it with an open mind and open heart.
The movie is based on a book that was written by a white author, however, the stories in the book are all told by black "maids" from the South in a time when segregation was still abundant.
With that said, you can imagine the types of prejudice, bias and oppression that were described and acted out in this movie. From major racial slurs, to out right mean and hatred for black people is all riddled throughout this movie.
For the most part, I cried during this movie. I have never seen such a moving expression of how people can be so unloving and hurtful to another human being just because of their race. These "maids" were made to use an outhouse to relieve themselves, eat in the kitchen and never with white people, and basically take abuse and racial slurs from their bosses just to keep their jobs.
Usually when I watch this type of movie I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt and shame that my "white" ancestors would treat other human beings this way. I know it was another time; another world. However, it does still exist today in some parts of our country.
I can only hope that a movie such as this was an eye-opener for others. I can only hope that we are a country can learn to love and respect each others differences.
Saturday, July 27, 2013
Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions
Practicing Awareness of Microaggressions
The microaggression that I experienced this week:
My friend was actually telling me "stupid women" jokes. It was very offensive to me as a women. However, the surprise really came when the male friend said that he heard the joke from his female cousin. When I realized that a women was the initiator of the joke, I felt even more disrespected and violated. I was highly insulted that another women would think that jokes like that are funny and would even care to repeat them.
I'm sure there were other forms of microaggressions this week that I missed. With that said, I feel that I had an extensive amount of growth during this week's topic. I realized that, although words are said with unintentional hurt, it can scar a person and be psychologically damaging. I have also learned that I will never quite understand what it means to be discriminated against because of the color of my skin. And no matter how hard I try, I will never fully understand the types of prejudice and stereotypes that others may experience.
Furthermore, I have also learned that people do in fact have some major issues in regards to stereotypes and discrimination. I think it is hard for some people to be self-aware. In conjunction, I have serious doubts that most people want to change their perceptions about others. Unfortunately, I wonder if there will even be a world without prejudices, stereotypes and discrimination.
The microaggression that I experienced this week:
My friend was actually telling me "stupid women" jokes. It was very offensive to me as a women. However, the surprise really came when the male friend said that he heard the joke from his female cousin. When I realized that a women was the initiator of the joke, I felt even more disrespected and violated. I was highly insulted that another women would think that jokes like that are funny and would even care to repeat them.
I'm sure there were other forms of microaggressions this week that I missed. With that said, I feel that I had an extensive amount of growth during this week's topic. I realized that, although words are said with unintentional hurt, it can scar a person and be psychologically damaging. I have also learned that I will never quite understand what it means to be discriminated against because of the color of my skin. And no matter how hard I try, I will never fully understand the types of prejudice and stereotypes that others may experience.
Furthermore, I have also learned that people do in fact have some major issues in regards to stereotypes and discrimination. I think it is hard for some people to be self-aware. In conjunction, I have serious doubts that most people want to change their perceptions about others. Unfortunately, I wonder if there will even be a world without prejudices, stereotypes and discrimination.
Sunday, July 21, 2013
Perspectives on Diversity and Culture
Perspectives on Diversity and Culture
One person wrote that they think culture equals tradition. And that diversity is a bunch of different cultures coming together.
Another person wrote that diversity is a bunch of different things, people, places... but that culture is about traditions and the way a certain community does things.
The third person was more literal in their definitions but expressed that diversity means different races and ethnicities coming together and that culture has to do with how people treat one another.
Obviously, the simple definitions of the terms are presented here in what people think diversity and culture means to them. However, I think that people fail to see the importance of why we have different cultures and why diversity is so important in today's society. I also have to point out that I posted the question: What is diversity? What is culture? on my Facebook page so that I would get a lot of replies. Sadly, I only got the three replies. This led me to wonder if people are afraid to talk about cultures and diversity, as if these topics are taboo.
I felt that the biggest omission was the conversation that should have taken place about the topics of diversity and culture. I was surprised that with the diversity of my friends and the variety of different cultures that exist among them all, that there was no conversation or sharing going on on my post.
Mainly, I felt that people may be so busy in today's society to even see each others different cultures and share about our diversity.
One person wrote that they think culture equals tradition. And that diversity is a bunch of different cultures coming together.
Another person wrote that diversity is a bunch of different things, people, places... but that culture is about traditions and the way a certain community does things.
The third person was more literal in their definitions but expressed that diversity means different races and ethnicities coming together and that culture has to do with how people treat one another.
Obviously, the simple definitions of the terms are presented here in what people think diversity and culture means to them. However, I think that people fail to see the importance of why we have different cultures and why diversity is so important in today's society. I also have to point out that I posted the question: What is diversity? What is culture? on my Facebook page so that I would get a lot of replies. Sadly, I only got the three replies. This led me to wonder if people are afraid to talk about cultures and diversity, as if these topics are taboo.
I felt that the biggest omission was the conversation that should have taken place about the topics of diversity and culture. I was surprised that with the diversity of my friends and the variety of different cultures that exist among them all, that there was no conversation or sharing going on on my post.
Mainly, I felt that people may be so busy in today's society to even see each others different cultures and share about our diversity.
Saturday, July 13, 2013
My Family Culture
My Family Culture
I'm sad to report that the only item I would take with me and keep is my computer. Within my computer lies the past, present and future of me, my family and extended relatives. I would begin by scanning and saving all of my family photos that are still loose or in photo albums, so as to keep these memories with me as well.
I'm sure we all notice that our lives revolve around the computer. Our photos get stored here, our homework is stored here, our personal papers and things like budgets are stored here on our computers everyday. Most importantly, the computer has given us all the tools to communicate and keep in touch with our family, no matter where they live in the world. Social media sites such as Facebook and MySpace have offered us tools to IM with our family and friends, send emails and update the status of not only our daily doings but also our daily whereabouts. We have other forms of communication, such as Email, Instagram and even Twitter to allow us to be connected every minute of everyday of our lives.
Needless to say, this may seem like a cliche to some. However, all I have our photos to remind me of my family and friends. I wouldn't go so far as to call myself alone, but my mom lives one place, my dad another, and my best friend in another! Without my photos and social media sites, it would be hard to keep up with the daily going-ons!
Although I am lucky to have strong bonds with family and friends, it is unfortunate that my family is not heavily into a "culture." I know that I am some German and some Swedish. One set of grandparents comes from Massachusetts and another set came from Illinois. Beyond that, I do not know much about my family origins or the culture in which they came from.
My main insight when it comes to family culture is: I question whether or not my relatives did not carry on their culture, what ever it may be, because they came to the United States as foreigners, were made to assimilate and were stripped of their cultural differences.
I'm sad to report that the only item I would take with me and keep is my computer. Within my computer lies the past, present and future of me, my family and extended relatives. I would begin by scanning and saving all of my family photos that are still loose or in photo albums, so as to keep these memories with me as well.
I'm sure we all notice that our lives revolve around the computer. Our photos get stored here, our homework is stored here, our personal papers and things like budgets are stored here on our computers everyday. Most importantly, the computer has given us all the tools to communicate and keep in touch with our family, no matter where they live in the world. Social media sites such as Facebook and MySpace have offered us tools to IM with our family and friends, send emails and update the status of not only our daily doings but also our daily whereabouts. We have other forms of communication, such as Email, Instagram and even Twitter to allow us to be connected every minute of everyday of our lives.
Needless to say, this may seem like a cliche to some. However, all I have our photos to remind me of my family and friends. I wouldn't go so far as to call myself alone, but my mom lives one place, my dad another, and my best friend in another! Without my photos and social media sites, it would be hard to keep up with the daily going-ons!
Although I am lucky to have strong bonds with family and friends, it is unfortunate that my family is not heavily into a "culture." I know that I am some German and some Swedish. One set of grandparents comes from Massachusetts and another set came from Illinois. Beyond that, I do not know much about my family origins or the culture in which they came from.
My main insight when it comes to family culture is: I question whether or not my relatives did not carry on their culture, what ever it may be, because they came to the United States as foreigners, were made to assimilate and were stripped of their cultural differences.
Friday, June 28, 2013
When I Think About Reserach...
When I Think About Research...
Oddly enough, the biggest insight I have had from taking this course is that actually doing the research project would have been easier than the simulation. Although, in doing "only" a simulation for this class, I gained a new respect for the class that I took as an undergraduate that required we do an entire research project, including the 20 page paper!
It was with great excitement that I dove into doing the research simulation because I, in fact, do love reading others' work. I was surprised that some of my colleagues had mentioned that they had never read a research article before taking this class. I wondered, "How can one go on working for years in a specific area like Early Childhood and NOT read a research article?" However, with this reality came a reminder that as I forge into my career once again, I will be sure to riddle my staff members and colleagues with research articles.
For the sake of argument, I think research is wonderful. It maybe not always be easy to read or understand, especially once the statistical significant results are thrown into the mix. However, it is a great feeling when I have an idea/concept that I think will work great for the children in my classroom or will be helpful in engaging parents to spend more time in the classroom, and find articles that discuss the pros and cons of the very same ideas and concepts.
Research is all about trying things out. What works and what does not work? Furthermore, I think that by doing the actual research project for this class, I would have had better answers to some of the questions we were asked to provide. I am not good at guessing the answers. I am much more inclined to search them out by collecting data and analyzing my results.
Oddly enough, the biggest insight I have had from taking this course is that actually doing the research project would have been easier than the simulation. Although, in doing "only" a simulation for this class, I gained a new respect for the class that I took as an undergraduate that required we do an entire research project, including the 20 page paper!
It was with great excitement that I dove into doing the research simulation because I, in fact, do love reading others' work. I was surprised that some of my colleagues had mentioned that they had never read a research article before taking this class. I wondered, "How can one go on working for years in a specific area like Early Childhood and NOT read a research article?" However, with this reality came a reminder that as I forge into my career once again, I will be sure to riddle my staff members and colleagues with research articles.
For the sake of argument, I think research is wonderful. It maybe not always be easy to read or understand, especially once the statistical significant results are thrown into the mix. However, it is a great feeling when I have an idea/concept that I think will work great for the children in my classroom or will be helpful in engaging parents to spend more time in the classroom, and find articles that discuss the pros and cons of the very same ideas and concepts.
Research is all about trying things out. What works and what does not work? Furthermore, I think that by doing the actual research project for this class, I would have had better answers to some of the questions we were asked to provide. I am not good at guessing the answers. I am much more inclined to search them out by collecting data and analyzing my results.
Saturday, June 8, 2013
Research Around the World
Research Around the World
European Early Childhood Education Research Association (EECERA)
www.eecera.org
European Early Childhood Education Research Association (EECERA)
www.eecera.org
- What are some of the current international research topics?
- Early Education for diversity: starting from birth
- Companionable learning: mechanism for holistic well-being development from birth
- The dynamics of early childhood spaces: opportunities for outdoor play?
- Children and the outdoor environment
- Introducing children's perspectives and participation in research
- Breaking methodological boundaries? Exploring visual, participatory methods with adults and young children
- What surprising facts/insights/new ideas about early childhood did you gain from exploring this international early childhood website?
- I was highly surprised to see such a vast array of research topics to look at on this website. I also felt it was interesting that the European Early Childhood Education Research Journal groups together topics for special issues. This seems to be an easy way for reference on a specific topic and is a helpful way to share information with parents and staff. Furthermore, the journals incorporated articles and research from other countries, such as China and Australia.
- What other noteworthy information did you find on this website?
- I found it very helpful that some articles had free access to them and all topics included the abstracts. Both are always very helpful when doing research and searching for specific information on a topic.
Saturday, May 25, 2013
Research that Benefits Children and Families - Uplifting Stories
Research that Benefits Children and Families
Option 2:
I think that if I had the means and ability to do research, I would continue on or start a new avenue in regards to academic testing and how it does or does not effect children's academic success. As of now, one of the theories states that standardized testing hinders children's academic success and can put them on a path of lower academic achievement due to not passing these tests. I would do research on how important it is to do standardized testing with children who are in Kindergarten and what type of emotional effects these tests can have on these children.
I feel that doing research on this topic will help parents to understand if they should send their children to schools with standardized testing. Also, I think parents will have a better understanding of what takes place during these tests and the type of content that exists on these tests. I have noticed that parents tend to trust the school districts rules and regulations about standardized testing without ever asking whether or not it is right for their child. I know that the government does in fact enforce these rules about the testing, however, if more parents knew the benefits and risks involved in the outcomes of these test, maybe they would be more likely to speak out against them.
Option 2:
I think that if I had the means and ability to do research, I would continue on or start a new avenue in regards to academic testing and how it does or does not effect children's academic success. As of now, one of the theories states that standardized testing hinders children's academic success and can put them on a path of lower academic achievement due to not passing these tests. I would do research on how important it is to do standardized testing with children who are in Kindergarten and what type of emotional effects these tests can have on these children.
I feel that doing research on this topic will help parents to understand if they should send their children to schools with standardized testing. Also, I think parents will have a better understanding of what takes place during these tests and the type of content that exists on these tests. I have noticed that parents tend to trust the school districts rules and regulations about standardized testing without ever asking whether or not it is right for their child. I know that the government does in fact enforce these rules about the testing, however, if more parents knew the benefits and risks involved in the outcomes of these test, maybe they would be more likely to speak out against them.
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Personal Research Journey
Personal Research Journey
I have decided to do my general early childhood research simulation on the topic of parent-teacher relationships/parent participation.
I look forward to the information that I find on this topic. I have researched it before and still hope to find even more studies that have been performed and written about regrading the academic success of child whose parents participate in the classroom and have a good parent-teacher relationship.
I have decided to do my general early childhood research simulation on the topic of parent-teacher relationships/parent participation.
Three related
subtopics:
- The influence of parent participation in the classroom on a child’s academic present and future.
- How parent-teacher relationships can influence a child’s academic progress in the classroom environment.
- How to encourage parent participation in the classroom and maintain a good parent-teacher relationship.
I look forward to the information that I find on this topic. I have researched it before and still hope to find even more studies that have been performed and written about regrading the academic success of child whose parents participate in the classroom and have a good parent-teacher relationship.
Sunday, April 28, 2013
Fianl Blog Assignment
Final Blog Assignment for Issues and Trends in Early Childhood Education
Just as some of my other colleagues, I unfortunately did not get to carry out emails and a conversation with someone from another country who worked in the early childhood education field.
However, by doing the alternative assignments and having the opportunity to look at all the progress that is taking place in other countries in regards to early childhood education, I was excited by my findings.
I was pleased to see different types of programs being used abroad, as well as research taking place on topics of major importance.
It seems that along with the struggles of poverty, hunger and homelessness, organizations are reaching out and helping in every possible capacity.
Also, I was excited about the tactics to bring awareness to the importance of early childhood care and education throughout other countries.
The largest goal that I can imagine for international awareness is that by doing research in other countries, talking about the importance of early childhood care and education and by programs being offered in other countries, the children of these international countries will be healthier, happier, encouraged more to continue on with their studies in school and to keep the cycle of awareness going for the next generation of children.
Just as some of my other colleagues, I unfortunately did not get to carry out emails and a conversation with someone from another country who worked in the early childhood education field.
However, by doing the alternative assignments and having the opportunity to look at all the progress that is taking place in other countries in regards to early childhood education, I was excited by my findings.
I was pleased to see different types of programs being used abroad, as well as research taking place on topics of major importance.
It seems that along with the struggles of poverty, hunger and homelessness, organizations are reaching out and helping in every possible capacity.
Also, I was excited about the tactics to bring awareness to the importance of early childhood care and education throughout other countries.
The largest goal that I can imagine for international awareness is that by doing research in other countries, talking about the importance of early childhood care and education and by programs being offered in other countries, the children of these international countries will be healthier, happier, encouraged more to continue on with their studies in school and to keep the cycle of awareness going for the next generation of children.
Saturday, April 20, 2013
UNESCO's Early Childhood Care and Education
UNESCO's Early Childhood Care and Education
Access and Equity:
2000 Dakar Framework for Action:
1.Participating countries committed themselves to “expanding and improving comprehensive early childhood care and education, especially for the most vulnerable and disadvantaged children.”
2.Governments were particularly urged to expand equitable access to quality early childhood services underscoring the importance of instituting policy in favor of the poor.
3.Countries often promote alternative services for poor children with limited or no access to mainstream early childhood services which can be cost-effective and pedagogically innovative, but often raise concerns about sustainability and quality. In cases where the government has limited resources, a pro-poor policy can redistribute resources by reducing state support for the more privileged.
4.Central governments must ensure an equitable distribution of resources among different populations and especially those who live in the most disadvantaged regions. This approach aims to expand access without creating serious regional inequities. However, where there is universal provision for a certain age group while the overall enrollment in other age groups is low, this policy can create inequity.
5. Privileged children of the target age group benefit from state investment, while poor children of non-target ages receive scant government attention. A policy of universalization with targeting can minimize inequity where governments aim for universal access among the target age group, but simultaneously prioritize the poor.
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I thought this section was worth posting here on my blog. It gave me so much insight and "food for thought" when it comes to how our own government allocates funds to early childhood care and education. How amazing though that inequality can happen even despite the best intentions? Is this what happens in our country as well?
-Beau
Access and Equity:
2000 Dakar Framework for Action:
1.Participating countries committed themselves to “expanding and improving comprehensive early childhood care and education, especially for the most vulnerable and disadvantaged children.”
2.Governments were particularly urged to expand equitable access to quality early childhood services underscoring the importance of instituting policy in favor of the poor.
3.Countries often promote alternative services for poor children with limited or no access to mainstream early childhood services which can be cost-effective and pedagogically innovative, but often raise concerns about sustainability and quality. In cases where the government has limited resources, a pro-poor policy can redistribute resources by reducing state support for the more privileged.
4.Central governments must ensure an equitable distribution of resources among different populations and especially those who live in the most disadvantaged regions. This approach aims to expand access without creating serious regional inequities. However, where there is universal provision for a certain age group while the overall enrollment in other age groups is low, this policy can create inequity.
5. Privileged children of the target age group benefit from state investment, while poor children of non-target ages receive scant government attention. A policy of universalization with targeting can minimize inequity where governments aim for universal access among the target age group, but simultaneously prioritize the poor.
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I thought this section was worth posting here on my blog. It gave me so much insight and "food for thought" when it comes to how our own government allocates funds to early childhood care and education. How amazing though that inequality can happen even despite the best intentions? Is this what happens in our country as well?
-Beau
Saturday, April 13, 2013
Sharing Web Resources
ZERO to THREE
In my search of the website this evening, I was lucky enough to stumble onto an article about how President Obama has now put forth a 2014 budget proposal that substantiates the need for investment in early learning!
In the article, it summarizes how the President is allocating funds, spread out over a 10 year period, that will help fund early childhood education programs such as Early Head Start. Also, the plan would provide $200 million in 2014 specifically to create more high-quality child care options for babies and toddlers with working parents, using Early Head Start’s quality benchmarks, expertise, and resources (Zero to Three.org, 2013). Furthermore, the budget allocates funds for families to have access to these types of high quality early childhood education programs.
Even more exciting, the budget proposal also allocates funds for more home visiting programs. The article reminds us that parents are benefiting and welcoming home visitors into their homes. Also, it is clearly shown with research that these types of home visiting programs are helping parents with resources and reliable information about early learning.
All in all, the proposal is said to be rooted in research done on children in regards to how babies are wired to learn. The article reminds us that those who do not have access to high quality early childhood education can quickly fall behind and therefore have long lasting gaps that appear even before their first birthday!
Resources
Zero to Three.org
http://www.zerotothree.org/public-policy/press-release-presidents-budget-proposal.html
In my search of the website this evening, I was lucky enough to stumble onto an article about how President Obama has now put forth a 2014 budget proposal that substantiates the need for investment in early learning!
In the article, it summarizes how the President is allocating funds, spread out over a 10 year period, that will help fund early childhood education programs such as Early Head Start. Also, the plan would provide $200 million in 2014 specifically to create more high-quality child care options for babies and toddlers with working parents, using Early Head Start’s quality benchmarks, expertise, and resources (Zero to Three.org, 2013). Furthermore, the budget allocates funds for families to have access to these types of high quality early childhood education programs.
Even more exciting, the budget proposal also allocates funds for more home visiting programs. The article reminds us that parents are benefiting and welcoming home visitors into their homes. Also, it is clearly shown with research that these types of home visiting programs are helping parents with resources and reliable information about early learning.
All in all, the proposal is said to be rooted in research done on children in regards to how babies are wired to learn. The article reminds us that those who do not have access to high quality early childhood education can quickly fall behind and therefore have long lasting gaps that appear even before their first birthday!
Resources
Zero to Three.org
http://www.zerotothree.org/public-policy/press-release-presidents-budget-proposal.html
Getting to Know International Contacts- Part 2
International Contacts- Part 2
Sadly, I have not received an email back from my contact in Ireland. Therefore, I have chosen to partake in the alternative assignment.
This week, I explored the Harvard University's "Global Children's Initiative" website.
My insights include:
1. The initiative is about building leadership capacity in child development research and policy and encourages diverse perspectives in regards to the global movement on behalf of young children
2. They focus on early childhood development, mental health and children in crisis and conflict situations
3. One project is centered around assessing quality in early childhood environments and programs in diverse global contexts
4. The vast amount of projects that are being planned or implemented in different countries such as Africa and Brazil
5. The non- English videos that are translated into languages such as: Spanish or Portugese
I am astounded and encouraged to see such activities taking place to bring awareness to the globe about the importance of Early Childhood Development and Education.
Sadly, I have not received an email back from my contact in Ireland. Therefore, I have chosen to partake in the alternative assignment.
This week, I explored the Harvard University's "Global Children's Initiative" website.
My insights include:
1. The initiative is about building leadership capacity in child development research and policy and encourages diverse perspectives in regards to the global movement on behalf of young children
2. They focus on early childhood development, mental health and children in crisis and conflict situations
3. One project is centered around assessing quality in early childhood environments and programs in diverse global contexts
4. The vast amount of projects that are being planned or implemented in different countries such as Africa and Brazil
5. The non- English videos that are translated into languages such as: Spanish or Portugese
I am astounded and encouraged to see such activities taking place to bring awareness to the globe about the importance of Early Childhood Development and Education.
Sunday, March 31, 2013
Sharing Web Resources
ZERO to THREE
I
receive the Zero to Three Newsletter at least once a month now. It is tailored
to the age of my twin boys, who are now almost 20 months. So, seeing as how my
babies are my profession, as of right now, I love that I am able to connect my
learning of child development and early childhood education with the growth of
my little boys.
Oddly
enough, the newsletter I received this week had a brief section on how 20-month
olds can remember moments better if we talk to them about their experiences.
Furthermore, the paraphrase came from an article in The Journal of Experimental Child Psychology magazine. So once
again, neuroscientists are making an impact on how we look at the Early
Childhood Education field. I enjoyed the piece in the newsletter because it
reminds me, as a parent and professional, to always talk to children about the
happenings of the day, what will take place tomorrow, such as a trip to the
doctor, or even scary or upsetting experiences. In addition, the newsletter
section suggested a great way to keep memories intact with our children:
picture books.
In
addition, the newsletter was full of great information about how my twin boys
are developing now at 20-months old. I forget, in the go-go-go of my daily
routine, that my boys are learning about imagination, how to control their
actions, how to recognize others feelings, how to solve problems, and act like
little scientists in their exploration of everything!
Saturday, March 23, 2013
Getting to Know Your International Contacts - Part 1
Hi All,
I am very excited about the opportunity I have to converse via email with another Early Childhood Education professional from Ireland! Her name is Nora and she manages an Irish language preschool in Cork City.
As of today, I have not received an email back from her in regards to my questions and interests of what it is like as an Early Childhood Educator in Ireland. Although, she seems eager to help me with my assignment and seems very sweet.
I have always wanted to visit Ireland. Therefore, I am extremely thrilled to have this chance to learn about their country and culture. Maybe some day I will visit and get to see their Early Childhood Education practices first hand!
I am very excited about the opportunity I have to converse via email with another Early Childhood Education professional from Ireland! Her name is Nora and she manages an Irish language preschool in Cork City.
As of today, I have not received an email back from her in regards to my questions and interests of what it is like as an Early Childhood Educator in Ireland. Although, she seems eager to help me with my assignment and seems very sweet.
I have always wanted to visit Ireland. Therefore, I am extremely thrilled to have this chance to learn about their country and culture. Maybe some day I will visit and get to see their Early Childhood Education practices first hand!
Saturday, March 16, 2013
Sharing Web Resources
Sharing Web Resources
I decided to subscribe to the Zero to Three organization and newsletter.
The website is: http://www.zerotothree.org/
As the website states, the mission of the Zero to Three Journal is:
"ZERO TO THREE is a national, nonprofit organization that informs, trains, and supports professionals, policymakers, and parents in their efforts to improve the lives of infants and toddlers.Our mission is to promote the health and development of infants and toddlers."
"ZERO TO THREE is unique in our multidisciplinary approach to child development. Our emphasis on bringing together the perspectives of many fields and many specialists is rooted in the robust research studies showing that all domains of development—social, emotional, intellectual, language and physical—are interdependent and work together to promote a child’s overall health and well-being in the context of his family and culture."
I enjoy the Zero to Three Journal because it not only talks about behavior, development, care, and education, but it also incorporates a section on policies that pertain to Early Childhood Development. Also, I am a fan of Dr. Brazelton's work and his books and teachings are featured on the Zero to Three homepage. In addition, I was excited to see that their parenting podcasts, called Little Kids, Big Questions, are now offered in Spanish and English.
Furthermore, I have children of my own that are in the zero to three age range, so I feel that I have a lot to learn from the articles and podcasts.
I decided to subscribe to the Zero to Three organization and newsletter.
The website is: http://www.zerotothree.org/
As the website states, the mission of the Zero to Three Journal is:
"ZERO TO THREE is a national, nonprofit organization that informs, trains, and supports professionals, policymakers, and parents in their efforts to improve the lives of infants and toddlers.Our mission is to promote the health and development of infants and toddlers."
"ZERO TO THREE is unique in our multidisciplinary approach to child development. Our emphasis on bringing together the perspectives of many fields and many specialists is rooted in the robust research studies showing that all domains of development—social, emotional, intellectual, language and physical—are interdependent and work together to promote a child’s overall health and well-being in the context of his family and culture."
I enjoy the Zero to Three Journal because it not only talks about behavior, development, care, and education, but it also incorporates a section on policies that pertain to Early Childhood Development. Also, I am a fan of Dr. Brazelton's work and his books and teachings are featured on the Zero to Three homepage. In addition, I was excited to see that their parenting podcasts, called Little Kids, Big Questions, are now offered in Spanish and English.
Furthermore, I have children of my own that are in the zero to three age range, so I feel that I have a lot to learn from the articles and podcasts.
Saturday, March 9, 2013
Establishing Professional Contacts and Expanding Resources
Part 1: Establishing Professional Contacts
I have currently sent emails to both the OMEP Ireland and the UNICEF Australia. I am still waiting for replies. However, I saw that a colleague put out a request on a Facebook page, which is a wonderful idea and one that I will try out! Also, I have thought about putting in an email to my previous school California State University, Fresno where I received my BA in Psych and started my MA in ECE. I know of a few professors that have lived in other countries to study the Early Childhood field.
If none of these work out, I'm glad that we do have an alternative project that we can participate in. This seems like an interesting assignment. I am always excited to learn about other countries and cultures, especially when it comes to the Early Childhood Education field.
Part 2: Expanding Resources
For this part to the assignment, I have found it hard to pick just one website. I started out with Zero to Three and subscribed to their newsletter. However, it said that it would not send one out until the first of next month. So then I moved on to the National Head Start Association page. I did not find a newsletter to subscribed to, but they did have a blog feed! I have added it to my RSS feed in the hopes to not only gain information, but to share the link with others at Walden University. Furthermore, I subscribed to Early Childhood Australia in the hopes that the contact from the UNICEF Australia works out.
Yet, I was drawn to an old love of mine, Reggio Emilia. I'm not sure if I can use that as my website but it is a wonderful resource to share about with others in our field.
I have currently sent emails to both the OMEP Ireland and the UNICEF Australia. I am still waiting for replies. However, I saw that a colleague put out a request on a Facebook page, which is a wonderful idea and one that I will try out! Also, I have thought about putting in an email to my previous school California State University, Fresno where I received my BA in Psych and started my MA in ECE. I know of a few professors that have lived in other countries to study the Early Childhood field.
If none of these work out, I'm glad that we do have an alternative project that we can participate in. This seems like an interesting assignment. I am always excited to learn about other countries and cultures, especially when it comes to the Early Childhood Education field.
Part 2: Expanding Resources
For this part to the assignment, I have found it hard to pick just one website. I started out with Zero to Three and subscribed to their newsletter. However, it said that it would not send one out until the first of next month. So then I moved on to the National Head Start Association page. I did not find a newsletter to subscribed to, but they did have a blog feed! I have added it to my RSS feed in the hopes to not only gain information, but to share the link with others at Walden University. Furthermore, I subscribed to Early Childhood Australia in the hopes that the contact from the UNICEF Australia works out.
Yet, I was drawn to an old love of mine, Reggio Emilia. I'm not sure if I can use that as my website but it is a wonderful resource to share about with others in our field.
Saturday, February 16, 2013
My Supports
My Supports
My biggest supports are my twin baby boys. They can't help me bring in the groceries. Yet. They can't help me fold laundry. Yet. They can't help me clean their room, make their beds, or even do the dishes. Yet. But they truly are the force that drives me everyday. They not only get me out of bed everyday, but they are what keeps me on track to finish my master's degree. I know that one day it will be all worth it and I will be able to provide them with the life that they deserve. Of course, if they did not exist, I would go on. However, they are what completes me as a women. They have made me the best thing in the world: a mother.
Another big support is my boyfriend. He pushes me everyday to finish my master's degree to show our boys that having a higher education is essential in this day and age. He supports me by picking up the slack in regards to my boys when mommy has to do homework or even take a nap because she is sooooo tired. He is my friend and helps me see the bigger picture of life. I think that if he didn't exist, I would be heartbroken. He is a great father and tries everyday to show them how to be little men. Without him, I know that my boys would suffer and so would I.
A practical support is my obsession with making lists. I have one for the grocery store. I have one for my life goals. I have one for my daily activities. I even have one for my monthly budget. I use lists to "dumb" things out of my head. If I do not write things down, not only do I forget things, I can also become obsessed with details. Inevitably the mental lists of things to do, things to buy, or things to pay keeps me up at night. Obviously if I did not have the ability to make lists, I would be more and more confused. I think I would go around trying to remember what it was that I forget!
My Chosen Challenge
This task is hard. I could imagine being deaf. Blind. Not have legs. Not have arms.With any of these, the needed supports in my life would be great. Somehow though I know that I would hate to have to rely on others for help. I'm stubborn. (lol) However, I know that I would need someone to teach me sign language if I was deaf or someone to drive me around if I was blind. Yet, I would want to set an example for my children and show them that anything is possible, even with challenges. I think the benefit of any support is that it makes a person feel "normal" when they live with challenges. I have seen many documentaries on disabled people where they suggest that they wish to just be seen as normal and not known for their disabilities. I feel that I would want the same respect.
My biggest supports are my twin baby boys. They can't help me bring in the groceries. Yet. They can't help me fold laundry. Yet. They can't help me clean their room, make their beds, or even do the dishes. Yet. But they truly are the force that drives me everyday. They not only get me out of bed everyday, but they are what keeps me on track to finish my master's degree. I know that one day it will be all worth it and I will be able to provide them with the life that they deserve. Of course, if they did not exist, I would go on. However, they are what completes me as a women. They have made me the best thing in the world: a mother.
Another big support is my boyfriend. He pushes me everyday to finish my master's degree to show our boys that having a higher education is essential in this day and age. He supports me by picking up the slack in regards to my boys when mommy has to do homework or even take a nap because she is sooooo tired. He is my friend and helps me see the bigger picture of life. I think that if he didn't exist, I would be heartbroken. He is a great father and tries everyday to show them how to be little men. Without him, I know that my boys would suffer and so would I.
A practical support is my obsession with making lists. I have one for the grocery store. I have one for my life goals. I have one for my daily activities. I even have one for my monthly budget. I use lists to "dumb" things out of my head. If I do not write things down, not only do I forget things, I can also become obsessed with details. Inevitably the mental lists of things to do, things to buy, or things to pay keeps me up at night. Obviously if I did not have the ability to make lists, I would be more and more confused. I think I would go around trying to remember what it was that I forget!
My Chosen Challenge
This task is hard. I could imagine being deaf. Blind. Not have legs. Not have arms.With any of these, the needed supports in my life would be great. Somehow though I know that I would hate to have to rely on others for help. I'm stubborn. (lol) However, I know that I would need someone to teach me sign language if I was deaf or someone to drive me around if I was blind. Yet, I would want to set an example for my children and show them that anything is possible, even with challenges. I think the benefit of any support is that it makes a person feel "normal" when they live with challenges. I have seen many documentaries on disabled people where they suggest that they wish to just be seen as normal and not known for their disabilities. I feel that I would want the same respect.
Saturday, February 2, 2013
My Connections To Play
Quote 1: "In every real man a child is hidden that wants to play." - Friedrich Nietzsche
Quote 2: "A child who does not play is not a child, but the man who doesn't play has lost forever the
child who lived in him and who he will miss terribly."- Pablo Neruda
During my childhood, my parents encouraged me to play with all sorts of toys. I grew up with a brother, so he had lots of "boy" toys and I had lots of "girl" toys. However, we traded off toys and played together all the time. Toys were never separated into boys/girls toys in our household. Although I have to admit, I never really did get into playing green army men outside in the dirt. Either way, my brother was a big support in my quest for play. He was always way more imaginative than I in terms of finding ways to play.
I have to admit that I do not remember how play was in a classroom setting during my childhood. In my experiences of working at day cares or preschool programs, I have found that play is more encouraged and allowed. However, I have seen the difference between good quality and poor quality early childhood programs. I have noticed that good quality programs have designated areas for all different types of play. Yet, as children begin to enter kindergarten, it is my experience that the time for play is lessened and replaced with academics for state assessments. I hope that in the future this type of practice will change.
Growing up, I was not discouraged from playing. However, I think that my shyness kept me from doing imaginative play with other people in my class. Furthermore, I played by myself at home a lot and when my friends came over I was always a little selfish with my toys. Now as a parent, I try to encourage my boys to play openly and without reservation. I try to teach them to share their toys with each other and to use their imagination when playing. In all, I try to play with my boys often. I hope to encourage them to not be shy and to partake in activities with their peers.
Quote 2: "A child who does not play is not a child, but the man who doesn't play has lost forever the
child who lived in him and who he will miss terribly."- Pablo Neruda
During my childhood, my parents encouraged me to play with all sorts of toys. I grew up with a brother, so he had lots of "boy" toys and I had lots of "girl" toys. However, we traded off toys and played together all the time. Toys were never separated into boys/girls toys in our household. Although I have to admit, I never really did get into playing green army men outside in the dirt. Either way, my brother was a big support in my quest for play. He was always way more imaginative than I in terms of finding ways to play.
I have to admit that I do not remember how play was in a classroom setting during my childhood. In my experiences of working at day cares or preschool programs, I have found that play is more encouraged and allowed. However, I have seen the difference between good quality and poor quality early childhood programs. I have noticed that good quality programs have designated areas for all different types of play. Yet, as children begin to enter kindergarten, it is my experience that the time for play is lessened and replaced with academics for state assessments. I hope that in the future this type of practice will change.
Growing up, I was not discouraged from playing. However, I think that my shyness kept me from doing imaginative play with other people in my class. Furthermore, I played by myself at home a lot and when my friends came over I was always a little selfish with my toys. Now as a parent, I try to encourage my boys to play openly and without reservation. I try to teach them to share their toys with each other and to use their imagination when playing. In all, I try to play with my boys often. I hope to encourage them to not be shy and to partake in activities with their peers.
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Relationship Reflection
My relationship with my boyfriend is special because we try everyday to keep our family together. We communicate, share our feelings, solve problems, talk things out and basically try to keep our relationship strong by maintaining our friendship. We are both first time parents. Needless to say, the pregnancy took us by surprise. We work together each day to raise our sons in a stable environment, riddled with encouragement, love, understanding and lots of kisses. We partner together to teach our sons about respect for others, manners and the ability to express themselves with love and understanding for each other. My boyfriend and I do not have a lot in common. Yet, the love of our boys and the determination to be a family has brought us closer together.
My sons, David and Andrew, are my whole world. I worried, even as a teenager, how I was ever going to afford to stay home with my children. I can say today that I am blessed to have the opportunity to raise my children in a healthy, happy and stable environment. They have taught me patience, love beyond a capacity that I had ever known, understanding and the ability to see the study of child development in a whole new way. By having children, I have become a stronger advocate for early childhood care and education. At this point, in California, preschool is not mandatory. Therefore, I am concerned everyday with whether or not I will find a good, quality early childhood program for my boys.
My sister is another strong relationship in my life. She has taught me a lot about being a mother. She has been there for me whenever I have questions, need advice, or just need a shoulder to cry on. She is a strong, stable individual that has taught me to be independent and to face life head on. Her children are now school age, which encourages me to advocate for education beyond early childhood. They currently attend a Charter school that envelopes the children in an environment of learning, without the hassles of having to "teach to the test."
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