Who Am I as a Communicator?
I think the one thing that surprised me the most about the evaluations this week is that I see myself "elevate" communication anxiety and my other evaluators do not. Throughout my life, when I describe myself as "shy" most people tell me that they do not see me this way. However, deep down I know that I deplore public speaking, meeting and talking to new people, and eye contact when talking to someone. I am fully aware that all of these difficulties derive from a lack of social skills, in a certain sense, that are a direct result of my childhood.
Furthermore, another aspect that I learned this week about communication is that although I am a people-oriented listener, my evaluator also gathered a score that put me in the verbally aggressive section as well. Although I scored on a moderate level, my evaluator scored me in the significant level. In all honesty, I can concur with this finding in regards to my relationship with the evaluator. Which then led me to understand that I communicate differently with different people in my life.
So, I pose the questions: Does anyone else find this to be true? Do you communicate the same with every person in your life?
Beau,
ReplyDeleteWe often evaluate ourselves beneath where we normally are, and that's just a sense of not wanting to be that "one" particular person that everybody says is annoying! However, like you said when you were evaluated by another person, they found some untruths in your judgment and then you concurred. See how easy and more relaxed we are with people who know us versus speaking to a complete stranger. I also see similarities in me based upon how you see yourself!